Project Forgive

The Detroit Free Press ran a very complicated (emotionally and cognitively) story about a recovery, a relapse, a tragedy and forgiveness.

“Tom had been sober for years,” Duperon said. “He was a very giving man, an extraordinary man, and life hit him, and he went back to drinking again. It’s that circumstance where you have that amazing person who in the next breath killed a family. It’s a difficult thing to hold in your brain.

The man who lost his wife and children to this accident had one question:

“Here he is,” Weinstein said of their meeting, “a father like me, and that was the only question I had.”

In that jailhouse conference room, stripped bare of pretense and away from the community ripped apart by the May 2005 tragedy, two fathers who had never met talked briefly about forgiveness. They did not discuss details of the crash. There were no recriminations, no tears.

In response to Weinstein’s question, Wellinger, without hesitation, said he hadn’t seen his son in more than a year. He was underage and not allowed in the jail.

“I haven’t seen mine either,” Weinstein replied.

“He asked me could I ever forgive him, and my quick response was: ‘Can you forgive yourself?’ “

Here’s a Kickstarter page they have to fund a documentary on forgiveness that will feature this story.