Andrew Sullivan has a MUST READ post about supporting people who are suffering. He pulls from the original post and a couple of responses. Please click through and read the whole post.
This was especially striking:
It feels like resignation or irresponsibility not to say anything to the person in the midst of trauma. At best, we want to help. But so often “help” is just another word for “control” and a defense mechanism for feeling uncomfortable with another’s grief.
The whole thing reminds me of Bill White’s references to fellow travelers.